One of the questions I frequently get asked by my clients, (married or single) is how to reconcile or get back together after a separation, break up, or a big blow up. They also want to know if it’s possible for a relationship to work the second time around. Besides the two of you, there are two other things to consider:
1. Taking It Slow
When you are first getting back together, it makes sense to take the relationship slow. When you broke up, one or both of you were willing to walk away from the relationship. This may have resulted in bruised egos and wounded hearts. Although it is understandable to be thrilled that you are reunited, don’t minimize the hurt of the break up by acting like nothing happened. If you are still so angry that every conversation turns into the blame game and you are keeping score of who hurt the other more, you are not ready to reconcile.
Getting back together has a better chance of working when both parties are willing to talk and willing to accept some responsibility for the demise of the relationship. The road back to a renewed relationship will take time, patience, understanding, and commitment. Having a break up and getting back together too quickly can contribute to a continuing chaotic relationship. Read more